In our last blog post, we discussed six ways that attendees can be made to feel uncomfortable at nude events. In this post, we wanted to talk specifically about how we strive to handle the reporting and management of potentially inappropriate conduct at Calgary Nude Recreation events.
What happens if I offend someone? Or have a report against me?
We look at each incident on a case by case basis with heavy emphasis on whether the conduct, actions, or words negatively impacted someone else’s experience. Very little weight is placed on stated intentions, because in every situation we’ve had to deal with the stated intentions were innocent.
CNR prefers people correcting their own behavior over us having to take punitive actions. That means we identify the person involved and then offer a conversation on which actions were not appropriate and how to handle similar future scenarios.
CNR prefers to address issues early; if someone is making another person feel uncomfortable, whether it be not picking up on obvious social cues or anything else, then they are probably making others feel the same way. Reporting these “grey area” situations will likely not get anyone kicked out. Membership revocation will be considered if there have been failed attempts to discuss and alter the behaviour, or for intentional acts intended to negatively impact others.
Am I a bad person if you have to talk to me?
No, we are going to assume you are likely not a bad person. It is unfair to expect someone to know what everyone else finds offensive or unsettling in every situation. Part of being a reasonable adult is understanding when your actions negatively impact others (regardless of your intentions) and modifying your behavior to accommodate those around you in a healthy way.
If you can be open to the possibility that you might not have done anything wrong, but your actions may still be unwelcome, then the issue will likely end with a conversation. We are far less interested in finding blame than we are in ensuring our guests all remain safe and comfortable at our events.
Am I a bad person if I report someone else?
Absolutely not! Its normal to not want to get someone “in trouble”, and our aim is not to go around punishing people for no reason. Pointing someone out to us allows us to address that person’s behavior, monitor that they aren’t negatively impacting others, and ensure they improve.
It is best if you can inform a CNR volunteer during the event so we can identify the person and address the situation. It is incredibly difficult to positively identify one of 100 attendees after the event has ended, let alone have a conversation with them.
By notifying us about small issues you are helping everyone feel more comfortable.
For more on our journey to arrive at this approach, including the professional training we took, see our blog post on Safer Spaces at Nude Events. If there is anything you think we could improve, or have questions about our procedures, please email CalgaryNudeRecreation@gmail.com.